I’d Rather Be An Astronaut

It never ceases to amaze me just how sad other people seem to get when I say I don’t want kids. I mean, do you honestly care that much about my reproductive desires? But that’s a whole other post entirely. The people who seem sad to hear I don’t want kids inevitably say something like:

“Oh, but you’d be such a great mom!”

Really? How do you know that, exactly? But more importantly, just because I could be good at something doesn’t mean I should do it. I bet I’d make a good rodeo clown, too, but I’m not gonna.

I heard all the time in high school that I’d make a great teacher, but I didn’t do that, either. The first job I ever had was in a pediatrician’s office, and my boss thought I would be a good doctor. But alas, there is no M.D. at the end of my name.

Yet no one seems to be mourning the fact that I didn’t pick one of many other career paths that I seem to have a decent skill set for (or could have learned to do fairly well). Hm. Go figure.

How do you respond to this type of comment?



Furbabies vs. Real Babies

Never underestimate the similarities between raising furbabies and human babies. This includes all the things parents do that annoy non-parents. Fur-parents, you are not innocent! Those of us with beloved furbabies have probably annoyed plenty of people with our antics too. I fully admit my guilt.

Human parents plaster their facebook pages with pictures of their kids and assume everyone wants to hear about everything their kids do.

Furbaby parents plaster their facebook pages with pics of their pets and assume everyone wants to hear about Chester the cat’s penchant for rat-hunting

Human parents always think their kid is the cutest.

Oh please, my dog is the cutest!

Human parents are always ready to tell you about the funny thing their kid said.

Ditto with furbaby parents. Because our pets totally speak to us. Just because you don’t hear it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

Human parents will tell you, in excruciating detail, about their child’s illness and it’s colorful manifestations.

Um, I know my dog’s poop schedule, the physical cues that tell me she has to go, what it usually looks like, and where she prefers to do it.

Human parents cry when they drop their kids off for the first day of school.

Furbaby parents cry when they drop their pets off at the kennel for a few days.

Human parents will buy something for their kids before they buy for themselves.

Some days I think my dog eats better than I do.

Oh, and if you’ve lost your sense of humor, this is where you laugh. 😛 So the next time you childless folks roll your eyes at some parent gushing about their kid, just realize that if you have pets, you’re probably guilty of the same. Furbabies or real babies, they’re our family, and we love ’em! Here’s my furbaby:

Welcome to The Childfree Choice

choice  (tʃɔɪs)
1. the act or an instance of choosing or selecting
2. the opportunity or power of choosing
3. a person or thing chosen or that may be chosen: he was a possible choice
4. an alternative action or possibility: what choice did I have?
5. a supply from which to select: a poor choice of shoes
6. of choice  preferred; favourite

(World English Dictionary)

Hello, and welcome to the Childfree Choice! One of the most important things I’d like people to understand is the concept of choice when it comes to childbearing. No, this has nothing to do with pro-choice or pro-life abortion issues. I’m not even gonna touch that. What I’m referring to is the fact that when it comes to having children, the choice most people think of is when.

The real choice, however, is if.

When you meet someone and fall in love, everyone wants to know when you’re getting married. Once you’re married, everyone wants to know when you’re having kids. Kids are the default option, and many people find it difficult to comprehend the thought of someone making another choice – or even that there IS another choice.

For those who never had any doubt about having children, it may be hard to think of your decision have them as a choice. For those who have felt guilty or ashamed about not wanting children in a world where it’s almost expected, it may come as a relief to find others like them who have made the childfree choice. Either way, I implore you to realize that being childfree is, in fact, a valid choice, not a deficit or disadvantage.

I hope you’ll follow along with me as I explore the pros, cons, challenges, and hilarities of a life that is childfree by choice.